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Sometimes being an adult means making difficult decisions

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I love that saying.

Oftentimes as adults, we have to make those difficult decisions. The saddest part, is that sometimes those decisions end up breaking your heart and causing you pain. You make them... because you have to.

Because you need to.

Those decisions aren't always easy to make. You go back and forth, asking yourself, is this right? Should I do this? What if I regret it?

Well... you probably will regret it in moments after if you're human. It may not feel right at times and you're going to find yourself hating the decision you made at times, wishing you'd never done it, even wanting to go back on it, but that's the thing. You did it. Which meant you were supposed to do it. And it's perfectly normal to feel regretful, sad, etc., afterward because we all do.

And it's o-k-a-y.

As difficult as those decisions are, we have to make the decisions that are best for us. We can't always think about the people that it will affect because at the end of the day, the person that we have to answer to is: us.

I always say to people, "you have to make the decision you can live with at the end of the day." What I always mean is that you have to face YOURSELF in the mirror. YOU have to live with the consequences of your actions.

Nobody else does.

So yes, as an adult, you need to ask yourself: is this right for ME? Not your friends, family, kids, pets, etc.

You.

You are what's important because nobody else will make that decision for you. If you don't take care of yourself first, you can't take care of anyone else. Most importantly, everyone values someone who values themselves first. Unless you say you are worth better and worth better treatment, nobody else will.

Place yourself up on that pedestal, but allow yourself a ladder so if you fall, you can get back up.

When we make those difficult decisions, it is okay to allow yourself to feel the pain or regret. Just don't dwell. Remember that you had to do it and now it is in the past so really, let it go and move on. I allow, at the most, a few days of pain. After that, I'm done. It's just one more negativity in your life you don't need.

So smile, get up, and get moving...

What's been your most difficult decision lately?


Hugs and kisses and more to come!
Til next time!!

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