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What would you tell your younger self?

A message to the little girl I was, am, and the young child within all of us.



A friend asked me what I would say to my younger self and I began thinking. . . .

Don't be scared. I know how much fear you hold in your heart, but it's all lies.

You're so much braver than you think and you realize.

Don't be afraid to dream, to love, to be open and honest with your feelings, to be who you want to be despite everyone around you telling you that you can't. Look at the source of that hate. They want you to fail so you'll be no better than they. Do not ever allow them to win, to hold you back from your true potential.

There will come a time when you are a bit older, yet still so young, that you'll be asked a question and you will wonder whether or not you should tell the truth. If you lie, that road is going to be so very hard on you. It will take parts of your soul that you will never receive again. They will never return. People will tell you that was a bad thing, but it isn't.

Especially not to the right people. There will be so many wrong people that go through your life, and it will break your heart. Some that will shatter your heart until you believe that you have nothing to give  anymore, but we both know that is a lie. As long as you breathe, you have so much to give, so much love still lay within to give to the right people.

Eventually those tears will dry and they will be the ones who suffer when they realize you are no longer there because you gave up on them. That is the consequences they have to deal with from hurting you over and over and expecting you to stay. When they took you for granted and didn't care to let you know that you mattered in their life. We both know you will move on and they will mourn what is no longer there.

If you tell the truth, your life may still end up the same in many ways. You had to pass through those gates of hell to truly understand joy and appreciate the one who chooses to stay in your life, who show you what love really is, and who isn't afraid to tell you how they feel now, not when it's too late. Who will not hurt you. And you will find them.

You have to live through that pain to help others and to teach you how to. So others don't have to go through it. It's a struggle to hold on, but hold on you will. Through your own grit and determination because you are strong as much as you are soft. You will help people, you will change their lives. You won't know it until you start receiving those letters and you still may doubt the truth, but they are honest.

You will suffer to learn to love. To learn who you are meant to be, what path you're on, and to have a good life in the end. One you build yourself, maybe one day with someone else there, but you learn when you get older that you like being with yourself, and that's okay. Not fitting in teaches you how to love yourself first, and to give that love and help to people who need to find themselves, to learn how to help themselves.  How to learn to love themselves.

You will change lives.

It's not an easy choice, but life isn't easy.

In the end . . . it will be worth it.

Just hold on.

You are so much stronger than you know.

What would you tell your younger self?

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