So many of us get into relationships (personal, family, romantic, etc.) hoping that they will last forever when it's sad to say, but they don't. It's one of the hardest lessons that we, as adults, are forced to learn.
It's rare when you find someone that lasts throughout your life, but most of the time, the people change and grow, and others end up not changing and growing with them. It's just human nature.
There are people who come into your life to teach you a lesson and until you do, they will stay there in your life. Others come into your life to learn from and grow with, while still others come into your life to help you on your journey. Whichever type of person you encounter, there comes that time when you have to be able to let them go. When they've served your purpose and your lives need to be lived separately, it's a hard thing to face, as to whether or not you should let them go.
We all face that time, we all know it will come. We just don't know which person that is in our lives will stay there for a minute, or a lifetime. If they end up choosing the path that takes them away from our lives, we need to realize that, accept it, and simply let them go. Sometimes we're just not ready for them to be in our lives as they are meant to, so they need to go their separate way so that we can live and grow as individuals, and then reconnect down the road of life once more. When we're ready, they will come.
It's reality for you in a nutshell. Not all relationships in your life will last forever. People change. They grow up, they grow apart.
So how do we do it?
How do we easily let go of the past--which shaped who we are--and move on?
right before I read this, I read an article from one of my favorite blogs: YouAreNotSoSmart.com. It was an article on sunk costs. Perhaps it applies here.
ReplyDeleteWe get so tied into relationships and it becomes increasingly difficult to move on from them. Even if the relationship has become toxic, if one has put so much time and energy into building it, it's difficult to move on from it. No one likes to let go of a relationship they've spent so much time and energy building.
I suppose the key would be to look at your present situation (relationship) irrespective of your past. It doesn't really matter how great your relationship was in the past if it's not serving you in the present.
There are no objects in this world; only relationships between objects - Something I've been thinking about.
-Jerred (Jay)
Thank you for coming by and reading and comment Jay. I checked out the article you were talking about http://youarenotsosmart.com/2011/03/25/the-sunk-cost-fallacy/#more-1172. Highly interesting read, and that we ended up posting around the same time.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with your comment "I suppose the key would be to look at your present situation (relationship) irrespective of your past. It doesn't really matter how great your relationship was in the past if it's not serving you in the present."
More people should look at it that way. Is it serving you well NOW? Some of us perhaps are also so tied into relationships with other people that they fear they won't find something that great with someone else. Which isn't the case, as there is always something better that will come along. Always.
Thanks!