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On the possibility that speaking your mind is no longer an asset

I was struck last night with the most random of ideas and this is what I thought of. Mind you, I was barely awake at that point so my higher self was more open to this idea. Now I think to myself, oh that's going to piss a lot of people off. Yourself (meaning myself) included. I am a proud person. Pride for me is my biggest battle.

I used to think being blunt was a good thing. I thought to myself, I speak my mind, and I am blunt! so people know where I stand. Okay, but then how far does one take something like that?



I have been reading a lot of Eckhart Tolle books, and listening to the podcasts from him and Oprah so it only spurs me on to be a more conscious being who considers her words more carefully, including her actions.

I am now coming to see that:

Speaking your mind is no longer an asset, it could be a liability. Ariana Browning

We are always speaking about the freedom of speech that we have. But with any freedom comes responsibility. I have the freedom to eat candy all day every day and nothing else. Does that make it right? I have a responsibility to my body with that freedom. I have a choice. Abuse that freedom and injure myself, or respect that freedom and take care of myself. Isn't it the same for speech?

Don't we have a responsibility to the person we are about to speak too to ensure that whatever we are to say, isn't hurtful? And I don't just mean to them. Being honest and straight-forward is one thing. Being proud of being blunt and always speaking your mind is now at the point where I think . . . maybe you shouldn't be so proud of it. I include myself in that. I was always so proud for speaking my mind, but isn't silence sometimes more communicative?

Being honest isn't the same as being blunt. Being blunt means that you don't care one way or another about how you come across to people. It means you are reactive and don't think too hard about what you will say. It means you don't care about this world peace that human kind has being striving so hard for. It means you prefer war.

I, for one, plan to be more conscious of how I deliver myself to the world. I plan to try my best to truly think about whether what I am about to say, is worth saying. I am honest, but most of all I must first be honest with myself. I must ensure that the words I speak, are to be used for the good of the world, and not the bad. After all, it starts with each one of us. If I speak with negativity within me in any way, then all I am doing is adding to the negative energy of the world, I am feeding it, I am becoming responsible for it.

We all have a responsibility to ensure that whatever energy we put out, will bring good will and love to the world, or if our energy we put out will merely add to the negativity and hatred.

I choose love.

Ariana

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